I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough"

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Now the part of the book that I was constantly feeling weird about was actually how much negativity it brought into my mind, of course awareness is good, but as I am listening to this, I'm constantly hearing first person stories ie. A popular speaker, she has given various TED Talks and is the author of several other titles, including Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection. How can we be honest with people about our beliefs and, at the same time, tell them what we think they want to hear?

I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t) - Brené Brown

How do we stand up for what we believe in when we are trying to make everyone around us feel comfortable so they won't get angry and put us down? In “I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t)” , bestselling author Brené Brown shows us the importance of our imperfections in building healthy relationships with others and with our own selves. Although Brené Brown has numerous chapters and sections that captured my attention, providing thought provoking and useful information, I felt the book was lacking something. Brene, there are a lot of lonely people out there who are going to feel even worse about themselves after reading your book.Moreover, Shame is generally associated with other people, such as when we seek sympathy by exposing one of our vulnerabilities but are instead rejected.

Shame Resilience Theory - Habits for Wellbeing Shame Resilience Theory - Habits for Wellbeing

Secondly, the reason I was in two parts about this book is because; as the title suggests, there are a lot of different accounts of Shame through people that Brown has interviewed, throughout the book you hear their stories, all the different places in which people feel shame, this was beautiful in a sense that it does lift you out of your own corner of shame and isolation, it also gave voice to emotions that I was feeling that I could not articulate myself. The shame resilience theory is a grounded theory and is based on building resilience to shame by connecting with our authentic selves and growing meaningful relationships with other people. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we’re all in this together.There is a broad tendency to believe that certain things, namely a successful career or a terrific outfit, will boost our self-esteem – but the reality is entirely different. An affirming, revealing examination of the painful effects of shame—with new, powerful strategies that promise to transform a woman’s ability to love, parent, work, and build relationships.